Marriage

My dearest friend in Seattle just left her husband and my sister-in-law's husband just left her. This all happened within one week. I can't imagine how they must feel as they must repeat the reasons for their circumstances over and over to friends and family. I wonder how I would handle the same situation if, God forbid, it ever happened to me. It's easy to say "well, sister-in-law, you married a guy who cheated on his first wife with you. If theys ain't doin' it with ya, theys doin' it to ya." But that certainly doesn't help any. My heart breaks for my friend in Seattle. She's been with her husband since high school and today she turns 40. (Happy Birthday sweetie-I love you.) A different friend once told me that he heard someone say that marriage should have an expiration date. I thought about that and came to the conclusion that that is a copout. Our marriages are what we make them to be. If they're boring or lackluster, there's no one to blame but the two of you. Do we not take vows and make promises of for better or worse and not just if we're having a funky good time? Now of course there are circumstances that are dealbreakers. I shudder at the thought of them. Maybe we all should do a little less whining take a little more responsibility. We can't change anyone but ourselves including the way we look at things. To my friend and my sister-in-law: bonne chance, ladies. Keep your chin up and have a little chocolate.